Ramadan Reflections

“Remind for the Reminder benefits the believers”.

Indeed, Ramadan is about more than just abstaining from food and drink. It is a time to reflect, revive and reform one-self for the better. Reformation of the self is best achieved through reflection; reflecting on life and death, reflecting on human relations, reflecting on true meaning of happiness and most importantly reflecting on what it means to be good. As part of my journey to reform myself this Ramadan I have chosen to share on this blog my own reflections. I will post short comments – containing either a verse from the Quran or a saying from the Prophet (SAW) – with the aim of reminding for the purpose of reforming. I am sure many of you will be very familiar with the verses and sayings I will use however, as the Quran says ‘Remind! For the reminder benefits the believers’. Thus, through these posts I aim to remind, so to reflect, so to reform. This Ramadan aim to become a reformed person. Ramadan Mubarak to you all.

Ramadan Reflection Day 1:

Prophet (SAW) said: “Al-Quran lima quri’a” /”The (blessings of) Quran is with the reciter”.

As all of make efforts to attend taraweeh prayers, we tend to go home feeling quite good with ourselves. We have fasted a full day; had delicious iftar; gone to the masjid and prayed taraweeh with fellow brothers and sisters who have undergone the same rituals we did during the day. But stop for a minute and sincerely ask yourself; how much of the Quran that was recited in tonight’s prayer did you actually listen to attentively, how many verses did you feel with the core of your being? Knowing the fact that today was the first day of Ramadan most of us probably stuffed ourselves too much and went to the masjid to “do the duty” of praying taraweeh but really spent most of our time wishing the Imam would hurry up a bit so we could go home and sleep! You may ask yourself – so what, does it make me a bad person to behave like this?

Well, no it doesn’t. But it does highlight to you how unaware you are of your worship – which I am sure you aimed to perfect during the month of Ramadan. OK, so what is the solution you ask? Follow the Prophet (SAW)’s advice above; “The (blessings of the) Quran is with the reciter”. For instance, you can bring a Quran with you when you go and pray taraweeh and read with the Imam leading the prayer. You can also pick up the Quran when you get home and read half a chapter or more – depending on your ability and time.

The month of Ramadan is the month when the Quran was revealed, thus it has more right upon us than any other month. Spend time with it, reflect on it, reform yourself according to it, hold it against your soul as you would hold a mirror to your face to correct any defects. But most importantly, take time to read it – even if it is for a page. Gain the full blessings of it, focus on it so you can find the wisdom you need to become that better person YOU wish to be….. 

A Man not a Player

Ain’t looking for a guy to my equal

For that would be near impossible


Ain’t looking for a guy to give me the world

For material things won’t feed my soul


Looking for a guy who appreciate

I’m made from his rib

Who knows he is my boss

But I’m the queen of our crib

Looking for a guy to be my homie

Who can help me raise a family

Looking for a guy who can do the simple thing in life

Make me giggle, dry my tears and honour me as his wife

If you want all my love

I am willing to give

But first you gotta prove

That my love is what you wish to achieve ;)

(c) NomadicEmpress

A Letter to My Somali Brother

I write this letter because I am heartbroken

Heartbroken because of my brother’s misunderstanding

Misunderstanding because you ain’t listening

You’re not listening to what we ain’t saying

We ain’t saying for fear of being forsaken

Forsaken because of the naming and shaming

Shaming because of the games you be playing

Playing because you ain’t respecting

Ain’t respecting because you ain’t appreciating

Ain’t appreciating because you too have been forsaken

Forsaken because nobody is understanding

Ain’t understanding because nobody is listening

Ain’t listening because you ain’t speaking

Ain’t speaking because you too fear the shaming

The shaming for being a man with emotions

Emotions that you really should be celebrating

Celebrating because you are a man that is living

Living because you’ve learned the art of expression

Yet, you ain’t expressing because you are hurting

Hurting because you no longer respecting

Ain’t respecting because you have been broken

Broken because you took a shot at loving

Now, you no longer loving

No longer listening

So you stay cold while I..

While I be heartbroken

Because I am a woman

Longing for your loving

We have the Potential

We have the potential to meet the need
We have the potential to succeed.
Hear me, my friend!
We have the potential indeed.

We have the potential to make past mistakes right
We have the potential to bring the hopes of daylight.

We have the potential
to save the next generation
We have the potential to rebuild our beautiful nation.

We have the potenital
to do away wth tyranny & backward mentality
We have the potential
to bring ourselves from the brinks of insanity.

We have the potential
to be like one family.
We have the potential
to find unity amongst our diversity.

We have the potential
to be the definition of inspiration
We have the potential
to end circle of violence and extermination.

From Boroma to Baidhabo
We have the potential
From Burco to Beledweyne
We have the potential
From Qardho to Kismaayo
We have the potential
From Hargeisa to Xamar
We have the potential

We have the potential to succeed
Hear me, my friend!
We have the potential, indeed!
All we've got to do is believe
In the powers of you and me

My Mission

I am on a mission
a mission to save a nation
a nation on death row

My mission is one of eradication
the eradication of deep desperation
desperation resulting from deprivation
the deprivation of a nation
a nation on death row

I am on mission
a mission to provide a vision
a vision of emancipation
emancipation of a nation
a nation on death row

My vision is of a nation
a nation free of frustration
frustration replaced by liberation
the liberation of a nation
a nation on death row

My vision will soon come to realisation
the realisation of a nation
a nation free of destruction
destruction replaced with the hopes of a nation
a nation no longer on death row

Qaraabooy qalad maa ku dhaqaaqay?

Hadaan Qarankeyga u istaago
Qabyalada hor istaago
Qaraabooy qalad maa ku dhaqaaqay?

Hadaan Qaadirkii weynaa talo saarto
Qurankiisane midigtayta ku qabsado
Qaraabooy qalad maa ku dhaqaaqay?

Hadaan Qalin qaato
Dhalinyarta qiiro geliyo
From Qardho to Qatar qeeladeeyda gaarto
Qaraabo qalad maa ku dhaqaaqay?

Ilaan dadkeeni qaali badnaa
Qaad baabiyo, qabuuro booxiyaan
ama qah iyo qoxootinimo ku dhintaan
Qaraaboy qaasidkeena ma yahay?

Qaraaboy, Al-Qayuum talo saarta
Quraanka qalbigeena ku qaboojista
Qarankeena qiimeesta
Qabyaalada badala
Qiyaamo isku diyaariya
Gargaarka Qaadir waa qariib

The A.K.M Syndrome

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that is driving us mad
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that divides you and I

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that creates war and not peace
It is the A.K.M
that prevent us from being polite, never saying please

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that made you divorce your wife
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that made you take another person's life

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that got the MPs stealing public money
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that make us so ugly and grumpy

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that got us destroying & invading nations
It is the A.K.m syndrome
that lead to the fall of previous civilisations

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that made you loose quality time with your family
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that made you lose track of reality

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that turned you into slave of money
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that made you forget your duties to the Almighty

It is the A.K.M syndrome
that got the Devil kicked out from paradise
It is the A.K.M syndrome
that is ruining your life

The Nomadic Empress

I am the Nomadic Empress
A Queen Sheba descendant
A modern-day Mary
Fighting corruption and injustice

I am a humble servant
of the only one who deserves it
The Creator of the Universe and everything in it

For pomp and glory I have no care
May not be rich, but in my heart
a real millionaire

Peace, Mercy & Justice
are the corner stones of my kingdom
A safe haven for the weak
and no room for oppression

My world is one where
the truth is known to all
My leaders prioritise peace
and limit the prospects for war

I am the Nomadic Empress
writing to express my distress
So listen up!
Cuz I'm about to teach you
a valuable lesson

Putting pen to paper
I'll inform you of how to be a true leader

First thing you gotta understand
The nation is not a property of you and your gang

Government is a sacred trust
and a heavy responsability
That must be discharged in the name of the Almighty
For the sake of community

A leader must have elegance
strength and intelligence
Although public duty can at times
be a real menace

Like Henry Ford once said
Coming together is beginning
Staying together is progress
But only working together
leads to the path of success

The Bible says where there is no vision
people will perish
While the Quran teaches you
to repel evil with goodness
As a true leader your only mission
is to ensure this

Greed must be replaced with gratitude
And gratitude is not an act but an attitude

Honour cannot be found in
a bank account filled with a million
Nor can it be gained through
a bullet or a gun
For it is only he who honours himself
who is the truly honoured one

I am the Nomadic Empress
Writing to express my distress
Over the corruption and injustice
of which I am a witness

How can you leaders sleep at night
While your people suffer
Do you not hear their plight??

No! A true leader can never
go to sleep with a full belly
while his people go hungry

As a true leader you must be visionary
Put the extra in extra-ordinary
And commit to your role like a missionary

I am the Nomadic Empress
writing to express my distress
So if you feel my word
Don't just sit and curse the darkness

Take a solemn vow to change the globe
with the Lord as your only witness

MEN!

They are our fathers, brothers, uncles, sons and husbands
That's why we love them

They are our abusers, rapists, murderers and violaters
That's why we hate them

They are our lovers, providers, protectors, best friends and other halfs
That's why we cannot be without them...

Dalkeygow (Dear Motherland)

Dalkeygow, I hear your calling
Dalheygow, I feel this yearning
A yearning to return to you
My birthplace, my second womb

Dalkeygow, when will I be able to see you again?
When will my eyes be ableto adore your beauty again?

Dalkeygow, for how much longer will I be seperated from you?
For how much longer will I be dreaming of you?

Dalkeygow, they told said you are a 'dal dad waayey'
Dalkeygow, they lied to you for you have a people
A people known for their beauty, strenght & intelligence

Dalkeygow, it is true some of these people
have to you been nothing but a menance

They have abused, raped & plundered you
Never thinking about your well-being or success

Dalkeygow, they have turned you into a war-zone
Where kids do not learn how to read and write
But how to work a gun

Dalkeygow, do not despair
Hope and happiness is near
For your youth everwhere
Are standing tall, united and loudly declare
'Dalkeygow, we are all here!'

Dalkeygow, we realise your real worth
Your youth knows you are the real secret heaven on earth

Dalkeygow, you have become synonmous with pain and misery
But thy name is so holy and dear to me

Dalkeygow, you are where I am from
The land where I was born
The heaven I am longing and dreaming of

Dalkeygow, I hereby take an oath to thee
I will give my all to restore your dignity and prosperity
So help me God, ameen!

Yes, I am a Muslim

I sleep like you
Eat like you
Walk like you
Breath like you
But, yes I am a Muslim

I have the same rights as you
The same ambitions as you
The same dreams as you
The same hopes as you
But yes, I am a Muslim

I hurt like you
Bleed like you
Cry like you
Laugh like you
But yes, I am a Muslim

I am human like you
Have a soul like you
Have a mind like you
Have a heart like you
But yes, I am a Muslim

I might dress differently from you
Pray differently from you
Speak differently from you
But bottom line is
I am Human
Just like you

My Kinda Man

They say, why you still unmarried, sister?
Don't you wanna know the bliss of being a mother?

I know a nice brother that will suit ya
Just give me the permission and I'll introduce ya!

Yet, these sister do not try to understand me
They rather just judge me

Labelling me as a feminist
Tellin' me, that my fitrah I should not resist

Sister, I ain't looking for any type of brother
I need a man whose a best friend and not just a lover

Sister, I ain't lookin' for another Ja Rule
But someone who lives only by God's rule

Sister, I need someone to honour and defend me
Not bribe me with Gucci, D&G or Fendi

I need someone deeply pleased with God's decree
Not bragging to me about his status, salary or Master's degree

Someone who understands that his woman's strength
Does not challenge him, but only adds to his success

Sister, I'll tell you the kinda man I need
A man to nurture me both spiritually and intellectually

Sister, I do not judge a man based on his fly ride
But the extent to which he worries what will happen to him when he dies

Sister, I need a warrior for goodness
Someone giving his all to stop this world's madness

Sister, I am looking for a dignified brother
Who will honour and cherish his descendants' mother

Sister, if you really wanna help me
Then try to see things from my perspective

Sister, I am not a feminist I do not have the need to be
See, if I'm still single, it is only due to God's decree

"That you may know one another"

We’ve heard it all before; girl meets boy, boy proposes, father refuses and all hell breaks loose. Father declines, because the boy is from a different nationality than his own, and the two youngsters emotionally charged and armed to their teeth with Qur’anic verses, sayings of the Prophet (SAW) and (more often than not) support from their local imam, embark on a mission of condemnation disguised as sincere admonition. “But father”, the daughter pleads “Islam does not allow discrimination based on race or nationality! What you are doing is plain wrong and haram!” The imam chips in, “Fear God, my brother! Have you not heard of God’s words in the Qur’an where He says He created us in nations and tribes so we may know one another? What better way of knowing one another than through inter-cultural marriages? “

Yes, it is wrong to discriminate on the basis of colour, race or nationality. Yes, God did say nationality and tribes are for recognition only. But, while it is easy to condemn the wrong-doer it would be wiser to try to understand him. Why would a father, who is fully aware that declining a marriage proposal on the basis of nationality is condemned in our religion still deny his daughter the God-given right to marry the man of her choice and risks to loose his daughter in the process (as too many fathers have done)? Many of my friends have been faced with this dilemma, and yet when I ask them this very question, none of them has a rational or viable answer. Most of them condemn their fathers for being ignorant follower of not “real” Islam but one that is mixed up with their tradition and culture. But are our fathers, the ones who raised us and made us who we are, really just a bunch of, for lack of a better word, stupid and badly informed chauvinists? I somehow found this hard to believe and decided to dig a bit deeper.

So, I asked “what reasons do the fathers give when declining the marriage proposal, when they have not even met the brother in question yet?” Now, this question started leading me to the root of the problem. Many of these fathers tend to point to the very bad track record of other boys from that particular nationality. For instance, Somali fathers have time and again pointed to the many broken down marriages between Somali girls and other nationalities, most notably Nigerians and Jamaicans and refused to marry their daughters on this basis. The fathers argue that the boys did not treat their daughters well and very few of their son-in-laws actually took time and effort to learn the language or tradition, something that they found almost insulting. If they say inter-cultural marriages is one very good way in which people can get to know one another better, why do they not then bother learning the tradition of their wives?

This for me is where it really got interesting. These are really rational and valid points from the fathers, and as they seem to be rationally discussing and thinking about these issues, then we should be able to reach a rational solution to the problem, right? As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. Most of the time, the blame of this is laid upon the fathers but it seems to me that a lot of the problem is actually caused by the prosecutors (i.e. the young people in question) themselves.

Inter-cultural marriages are not something new, nor is it unique to the Muslim community. Since the beginning of time, kings and rulers from various nations used to marry their daughters to one another so to forge links with that particular state or nation. Our beloved Prophet (SAW) himself practised this as his wives included women from other tribes, nations and even religions. But with these marriages came responsibilities, more than those that usually come with matrimonial life. These rulers were very careful not to mistreat the women they married for these purposes as this could potentially, or even more likely, start a war between the two nations. Although inter-cultural marriages between Muslim youths of today do not really have the same extreme consequences if they go pear-shaped, I still feel too many of us underestimate the responsibilities. When you marry a sister or a brother from another nationality, you are in effect an ambassador for your whole community. So, if you are, for instance, a Nigerian brother marrying a Somali sister, the whole Somali community – whether you like it or not – will be watching how you treat your wife. And your actions could influence the likelihood of other Nigerian brothers marrying Somali sisters. This is sad, but true to my experience. I have cousins who have married women from other nations and, mashALLAH, the good characters of these sisters have actually caused some parents within my family to encourage their boys to marry girls from these particular nationalities!

So, let us go back to the oft-quoted verse in this context. I am of course referring to the verse in chapter Al-Hujurat (The Inner Apartments) in which God states the following:

“Oh, mankind! We have created you from a single (pair) of a male and female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other (not that you may despise each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you” (Al-Hujurat, verse 13).

The key words in this verse are “that you may know each other”. Looking into the life of the honoured mother of the Prophet (SAW), we will find out she died on her return from Medina having taken her very young son (SAW) to visit not only his father’s grave but to also to meet his paternal uncles and relatives. Let us look at this episode of her life in a modern context. During this era, there was no such thing as a nation-state but rather we had city-states. So going from one city to another, i.e. Makkah to Medina would today be equivalent to travelling from one nation to another. And what was the purpose of her visit? Although the Qur’an was to be revealed much later, Amina was really practising the wisdom of the above verse. Ponder on the loyalty of this amazing woman to her diseased husband. She travelled to another city, the last journey she would make in her life, so that her son could know his roots and familiarise himself with the history of his own lineage.

Now, I wonder, how many of those who have married from other nationalities have benefitted from the wisdom God intended with this verse? How many of us have learned the native tongues of our spouses? How many of us have taken time out from work to visit the motherland of our partners? How many of us educate our other halves about our own history and backgrounds? How many of us actually think of doing this at all? We quote the above verse in our defence when fathers disagree to inter-cultural marriages, yet very few of us actually apply the wisdom of this verse once married.

For all of us who propagate or even are in inter-cultural marriages, it is time to step up to the game and not only point the finger at our fathers and condemn them to hell for being racists. We have to realise the responsibilities that come with these marriages, being good ambassadors. Do not let yourself down by not benefitting from the great wisdom imbedded in this verse. For it is one thing to blame a person for their wrongs, and a completely different ball-game to become blameworthy in the sigh of God…

Worries

Why is it that worries lead to many things?
Many things that will lead to nowhere nice?
Worry gives life to anxiety
And anxiety is poison for the soul.

Why is it that worries occupy my mind
When I cannot solve my problems thinking about them?
Why do I worry when I know the sunrise brings hope every morning?
Why do I waste time worrying when worrying doesn’t solve a thing?

Why is it that worries lead to many things
When most things are not worth worrying about?

Follow your happiness

All God ever wanted for us is to be happy.
You are meant to be the ligh of happiness and delight
Born to make dreams a reality.

Yet, are you happy?
Do you still dream?
Are you living or just making a living?
When did you stop dreaming?
When did you stop being happy?
When did you die?

To be happy
To be a dream-maker
You have to first know yourself
And what makes you happy
Then, just follow your happiness!

Do You Know Who I Am?

I look but I do not see

I listen but I do not hear

I speak but I do not make sense

I read but I do not have wisdom

I have a heart but I do not show compassion

I take but I cannot give

I have a mind but I do not understand

I judge but I cannot be judged

I feel but I do not care

I have power but I cannot control

I am educated but have no morals

Do you know who I am?

Who Am I?

Who Am I?

You are My servant although you deny it.

You are My creation whom I love, feed, clothe and shelter but in return give little appreciation.

You are the one I have chosen over all other creatures, the one I honoured with a free will, a powerful mind and guidance but still act the worst of the worst.

You are the one whom I have chosen to give and preserve life through but death and destruction have become your favourite hobbies.

You are the one I have given the role to lead all back to the life of ease but have chosen to lead to the path of hardship.

You are the Son of Adam, a human being.

But you are not all the same. Some of you have chosen to respond to My call and outstrip in goodness. Others have responded but, while not leading in good work, withhold their own evils from harming others. Still others have responded with their tongues but denied with their actions, neither establishing good nor holding back their evils but destroy all that is good and harm as much as they can.

For all of you I have prepared a resting place beyond your imagination, but sadly not all of you will make it back to your original home and very few of you will reach its highest place.

You see, the similitude of this life is that of a race. All racers start from the same point and same chance of winning. Yet at the finishing line some will reach quickly, others after a while still others will be distracted from their main goal and never make it.

The winner in the race is the one who utilises his time and ability very efficiently and stays focused on his goal.

In My race, there are many winners, all can reach the finishing line provided stay focused on their goal and when distracted re-focus again.

For Me, time is of the essence. Whomsoever values it will be exalted and whomsoever neglects it will be abased.

Now I have answered your question, let me ask you this:

“Are you amongst the good-doers who bring hope and happiness to all or the one who is causing harm to others but in reality only harming himself?

I am Grateful and You are not!

Is it not amazing how we always occupy ourselves with trying to figure out the aim and purpose of people’s actions and intentions and never care to understand the aim of our greatest enemy whose happiness is our misery? If you were for instance asked what the aim of the Shaytan is, what would be your answer? The average honest person would probably reply “I honestly do not know”. Why is this the case? Why are we so busy insuring our wealth, lives and properties but rarely bother to take precautions against the one who inspires the thieves and murderers in the first place? I think it is simply because we do not know what his real aim is.


A couple of weeks ago I discovered something in the Quran. Reading the Chapter entitled Al-A’raf (The Heights). I discovered the sole aim of the devil, which he revealed in a dialogue he had with God shortly after he refused to bow down to Prophet Adam. God said to him
“(Oh Iblis) get down from this (Paradise), it is not for you to be arrogant here. Get out, for you are of those humiliated and disgraced. (Iblis) said: Allow me respite till the Day they are raised up, (i.e. the Day of Resurrection). (God) said: You are of those respited. (Iblis) said; because you have sent me astray, surely, I will sit in wait against them (human being) on your straight path. Then will I come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful one” (Al-A’raf:16-17).


Now, a few lessons can be learned from these verses. The first lesson is the vastness of God’s mercy. Shortly after he had disobeyed God, the Shaytan makes a prayer, i.e. to live until the end of times. Despite the fact that He was highly displeased with him, God granted Shaytan his wish. How many of you have had the urge to ask God of something yet you hear a voice in your head saying “how dare you ask God for anything knowing that you are disobedient to him most of your time?” This my, dear sisters and brothers, is the voice of the Shaytan, the same one who prayed for God despite being the first and only creation who stood in front of God and bluntly said I will not obey you. My dear sisters and brothers, when you hear this voice you should reply to it. Say “Oh Shaytan, I know I’m a bad person but I’m not as bad as you. My Lord is the Most Merciful and accepts the sincere prayers of His creation. Had you known this, then you would’ve asked for forgiveness for your arrogance. Sadly it is too late for you, but for me, there is still hope.”


The second lesson to be learned from the above verses is the fact that the Shaytan said he will be waiting for us on God’s straight path. In other words, he is only interested in those who are or try to upright, especially the youth. Why the youth? Because they are the backbone of this nation, if your back is straight, wouldn’t your body be too? This great Ummah of ours is bound to the wheelchair because our back, our youth, are broken.


Shaytan vows to wait for the believers on God’s path and promises to assault them from their front, back, left and right. Notice how he never said he will not attack us from above? This is because he realises the mercies of God descend unto us from above and he does not possess the ability of diverting God’s blessing, nobody does. However, he does have the ability of making us ungrateful for those blessings. And this is where the Shaytan reveals his core aim. He promises God he will attack us only for the purpose of making us ungrateful to God. Have you ever reflected upon the meaning of gratefulness in Islam? As a matter fact, everything in Islam links back to gratitude. Shaytan’s sin of arrogance can be classified as ungratefulness.


Despite the fact that God gave him the best home (i.e. Paradise), he refused to obey God’s only command to him, to bow down to Prophet Adam in a manner of respect. When someone is grateful to God, they say “Alhamdullillah”, which means “All Praise is due to God”. Tell me, what are the most common names of the most beloved prophet of God? Mohammed and Ahmad, two names which come from the root word “hamd”, which is Arabic for “praise”. Why was the Prophet (SAW) called these names? Because he (SAW) praised God a lot and was at the same praised by the whole creation, and will continue to be praised until the Day of Judgement. I ask you; with what words does the first chapter in Qur’an start with? Is it not “All praise is due to the Lord
of all the Worlds”? Again I ask you; do you know what the last words of the people of Paradise are when they are entering it? They will be saying “Verily all praise is due to the Lord of the all the World”. Oh, Muslim, do you now understand the importance of gratitude in Islam?


What does it, then, mean to be a grateful person? The Prophet (SAW) said that the one who is not grateful to the creation is not grateful to the Creator. My dear brother and sister, are you a grateful person? Are you grateful to your mother for everything she has done for you? Are you grateful to your teachers for passing on their knowledge to you? Are you grateful to your employer for giving you a chance to earn your bread? Oh, youth, are you grateful to society for looking after you in every possible way? Are you grateful to nature for enabling you to live in this world comfortably? You see, if you are not grateful to all of these, you cannot be grateful to God. So how do you show your gratitude? Is it enough to say thank you? Actually, I believe that gratitude is so much more than a few words uttered mostly done so without a sincere intention. I believe gratefulness is shown in your actions. It is easy to say thank you to your
mum, teacher, employer and so on, and this we tend to do only when they have allowed us to do what we wanted or given us what we needed.


Being grateful to your mother is showing her kindness and easing her burden, especially during time when you are not in good terms. Being grateful to your teachers is to gain the best grades and utilise the knowledge to the benefit of others, just like they utilised theirs to benefit you. Being grateful to your employer is helping their company or department achieve perfection in their services, even if it means going that extra mile.


Being grateful to the society is contributing back into it and changing it for the better. Being grateful to nature is to look after it by not over-using its resources irresponsibly and preserving it for the coming generations.
Now you know what it means to be grateful, I ask, my fellow Muslim, are you a grateful person? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to make you feel awful about yourself. All I want to do is make you realise how to protect yourself from your worst enemy. All I want to do is to enable you to be amongst God’s beloved and grateful servants. All I want to do is to make you overcome your worst enemy and say to him “Oh, Shaytan, I am grateful and you are not”.

My Love is Your Love

MY LOVE IS YOUR LOVE


What would you say to the Prophet (SAW) if you were to meet him tomorrow? Would you hug and kiss him and tell him how much missed and loved him? I think it is fair to say that for every Muslim, the answers to these questions would be a resounding YES! But if the day we meet the Prophet (SAW) was the Day of Judgement, the day when no tongues will be able to lie, would the answer be the same or would our true colours come out? Unfortunately, for many of us, our tongues express the love we presumably have in our hearts for the Prophet (SAW) but our actions bear witness of how artificial this love really is. When a person loves someone he/she would be willing to do everything for that particular person and love everything associated with him/her.

Describing a person affected by this, a poet once wrote “for the sake of a Sudanese girl, he loved Sudan to the point that he loved the black dogs due to his love for her!” Thus, if we really and truly loved the Prophet (SAW), we would love and honour everything he (SAW) loved and honoured. So, let us then ask what did he (SAW) stand for and love?

Firstly, we know he (SAW) stood for mercy and compassion because ALLAH had said in His glorious Qur’an that the Prophet (SAW) was not sent “except as a mercy to all the worlds” (Qur’an 21:107). Reading the Seerah (the biography of the Prophet, SAW) we would indeed see how well he fulfilled this role. Now, does this reflect on us who claim to follow and love the Prophet (SAW)? Are we for instance merciful towards our fellow human beings or our environment? Do people describe us Muslims as people of mercy, compassion and love? Well, I leave to answer that…

Another thing the Prophet (SAW) cherished was the unique brotherhood that Islam brings amongst its followers. This was not only a characteristic of the Prophet (SAW) but all other Prophets (AS). Take Harun (AS) for instance. When Musa (AS) left him in charge of the Bani Israel, one of them, referred to in the Qur’an as Samiri, mislead them by arguing the golden calf was their lord. Harun (AS) knew this was clear falsehood and warned his people. He said to them: “Oh my people! You are being tested by this, for verily your Lord is Most Gracious so follow me and obey my command”! (Qur’an 20: 90). His people disobeyed him and said “We will not abandon this cult, but we will devote ourselves to it until Moses returns to us” (Qur’an 20:91). Of course, God informed Musa about the situation and he returned to his people and confronted Harun (AS) asking him why he didn’t prevent the people from deviating and demanded to know why Harun (AS) had disobeyed his command. Harun (AS) replied “Oh son of my mother! Seize (me) not by (the hair of) my head! Truly I feared lest you should say ‘You have caused a division among the Children of Israel and you did not respect my word’!

Now, let us reflect upon this for a minute. Here we have a man whom God had given the ability and authority to put forward a fatwa and declare whomsoever worshipped the calf and followed Samiri would have deviated from the Right Guidance and thus, essentially, become a kafir (disbeliever). He could have easily, and rightly, separate himself and those who followed him and form their own group. Yet, despite this he refused. Why?

Because he did not want to cause a division within the group and because he knew there was one person who had more knowledge and authority than him, i.e. Musa (AS), to deal with the issue at hand. Compare that to us Muslims today who are willing to declare someone a disbeliever because of trivial reasons like for using prayer beads, not letting the beard grow or for not wearing the right type of hijab! If we truly loved the Prophet (SAW), wouldn’t we cherish our unity and do whatever it takes to keep it?

Do you know one of the last things that caused the Prophet (SAW) to smile? It was seeing the Muslims all praying shoulder to shoulder, united behind their leader to be Abu Bakr Siddique (RA). He (SAW) cherished unity and brotherhood so much so that he (SAW) would smile despite suffering great pains due to an approaching death! Does the unity of the Muslims concern you half as much as the Prophet (SAW)? Do you worry or feel saddened by the fact that so many of your brothers and sisters have abandoned their religion and become disillusioned by the transient life of this world? And if it does concern you, do you do something about it? Do you involve yourself with the spreading of the religion the Prophet (SAW) was sent to complete and perfect? Do you at the least greet your fellow Muslims with a cheerful smile, just like the Prophet (SAW) did? If we all ask ourselves these questions we can judge the truthfulness of our love for he Prophet (SAW). If we truly loved him (SAW), our answers would be strong and clear.

Shortly before the Prophet (SAW) died, he cried. Do you know why he cried? Because he missed you and me. His (SAW) love for us was so great it made his heart ache and his eyes cry. When the companions asked him (SAW) why he was crying, he (SAW) said: “I miss my brothers”. When the companions told him (SAW) he said he was not referring to them but to those who would come later on and defend Islam and uphold his Sunnah although they had not seen or met him (SAW).

Now let us ask ourselves, are we amongst those who caused the Prophet (SAW) cry out of his love for us or amongst those who will case him to cry out of sorrow on the Day of Judgement because we failed to save our families, our ummah and ourselves from the Hell-Fire? Will we be amongst those who tongues claimed the love of he Prophet (SAW) but whose actions belied their words? My fellow Muslim, do not get me wrong, I’m not trying to make you depressed. I just wish that Muslims start asking themselves some serious questions and make a promise to make their words and actions collectively say “Oh, Prophet! My Love is Your Love!”

“Don’t curse the darkness”

Every day, we watch how our Ummah is suffering. We sit in front of our TVs and curse Bush, Blair and Sharon for destroying our Ummah. Ask any Muslim why the people of Palestine, Kashmir, or any place in the world for that matter, are suffering the way they are and you are bound to get the answer “it’s because of the West”. But is it really? Is it possible that a handful of politicians are causing all the problems in our world? I personally do not think so. Evil leaders have existed throughout history, from Stalin to Saddam. If they were the problem then the solution would be a simple one: remove them from power and everything would be sorted. This is exactly what Bush and Blair thought when they went into Iraq. Yet, despite the fact that Saddam is no longer in place, peace has not been established. In fact, the opposite is quite true. Thus, as removal of Saddam did not help the Iraqi people, politicians cannot be the sole problem. I, rather, think it is the people themselves.

Have you, for instance, thought about your contribution to humanity? It is easy to blame others for everything that is wrong but when it comes to self-criticism, we fall silent. Why? Are you not part of the human race? Or are you just scared to admit that you might be the problem? You might say to me that you are only one person and cannot do much to solve the world’s problems. In that case, I would like to remind you of something the Prophet (SAW) said. He (SAW) compared his nation to a body and said every part of that body is so interlinked that when one part aches, the whole body feels the pain. Now why did the Prophet (SAW) take the body as an example? Let’s consider what the body is made up of. Anyone, whether they have studied science or not, would tell you the body consists of limbs and organs, which in return are made up of many, many cells. Each of these cells have a function and if they do not fulfil their functions properly, the body would not be able to function to its maximum capacity. Equally, you are one cell of the body of the Ummah. If you do not do your job, how, then, can you expect the body of the Ummah to function?

Now, I ask you, what is your role? You might tell me your role is to worship Allah (swt). But that would be the purpose of your life, not your specifically designated role in this life. The purpose of every limb and organ in our body is to make sure we function properly and get along with our lives. However, their roles in achieving this purpose differ. The hands have one role, while the eyes and ears have others. So what is your role? If you do not know your role, how can you expect the body of the Ummah to function properly? Some, mainly sisters, blame the Muslim men for the problems of this Ummah. They believe that since Islamically speaking, the men hold positions of authority (i.e. the head of the body), the Ummah is in such a bad state because they are not fulfilling their roles as leaders. In other words, the Ummah is brain-dead. I ask these sisters, if the Muslim men occupy the head of the body, where are the sisters situated? I believe the Muslim women are the heart of this Ummah (and I’m not saying this because I am a sister!). The biological role of the heart is to basically pump blood around the body. It is also a scientific fact that the heart can survive for a very short period, even though the brain might be dead. This is because the heart does not need stimuli from the brain, unlike the other organs in our body. Some sisters claim the Ummah is dead because the head (i.e. the brothers) is not upright. But I honestly believe that even if every brother was upright and followed his religion to the best of his ability, this Ummah would still be in a bad state as long as the sisters are not decent. If the heart is pumping poisonous blood around the body, what good will it do if the brain is in a healthy state?

The Arabs have this proverb that says a good woman is stronger than a thousand men, but if her heart is far from the religion, it is easier to move mountains than to move her heart. Let me give you three examples to illustrate this. In the last couple of ayahs in Surah Tahrim, Allah gives us the parables of two wicked (namely the wives of the Prophets Nuh and Lut) and two righteous women (namely, wife of Pharaoh and Maryam, mother of Prophet Isa). Who were these women and why did Allah put them forward as examples for us to reflect upon? Consider firstly the first examples. Despite having one of the Prophets of Allah as their husbands, they disbelieved in the message brought to them. What kind of kids did these households produce, then? In the Quran, we find a dialogue between Prophet Nuh and his son, in which he is advising his son to join him and the other believers on the ship before the world gets flooded. However, his son arrogantly responds he will go to such and such mountain and the water will not reach him. We all know what his end was. This example shows a case where the husband was righteous while the wife was not. What happens if we reverse it? By putting forward the example of the wife of Pharaoh, this is exactly what Allah does. Asiyah, despite being married to the most arrogant man ever walked on the face of this earth, managed to raise one of the greatest Prophets of Allah, namely Musa (AS). What if we remove the father or husband from the picture, how would the result be? Through the example of Maryam, Allah once again shows us the powers of a righteous woman. She did not have a husband nor a father for her child. Yet, despite this fact, along with the hostilities against her by her own people, she raised the very Prophet who will once again bring the rule of Allah to this planet of ours, namely Isa. Do not get me wrong here. I’m not advocating feminism, saying women can do without men completely. All I’m trying to do is to make my sisters realise their status. If we occupy the heart of this Ummah, we have to ensure its survival. Regarding the heart, the Prophet (SAW) said if it is upright, the rest of the body will be upright. As such our Ummah is more likely to upright and dignified if the sisters are. Let us also remember the fact that the word “Ummah” in Arabic shares the same root as the word “Umm”, which means “mother”.

Do you now realise how important you are for the Ummah and humanity in general? Do you also realise the importance of women? Ask yourself, what am I doing with my life? Am I leading it or is it leading me? Ask yourself all of these questions and then ask why the Ummah is in such a bad state. You will soon realise that blaming Bush, Blair, Mubarak or Musharaf for that matter will not be of any use. My fellow Muslim, stop blaming others for what is going bad in our world. My fellow Muslim, stop cursing the darkness and realise you are the light from which life can be restored. My fellow Muslim, find your goal in this life and let this light shine...wherever you might go.

Wa Salamu Aleykum Wa Rahmaullah Wa Barakatuhu

/Your sister Zaki